Innovative programs in some states are requiring parents seeking separation to keep the focus on what is good for the children. A Bill of Rights for kids prohibits involving the children directly in the conflicts of the parents. (CBS Early Show link was lost)
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I think that there are several advantages for focusing on the well being of your children when going through a divorce. First of all it helps the kids to adjust to the prospects of the divorce because both parents are focused on maintaining consistency between the households and because both parents are taking steps to shield their kids from the conflicts that are bound to come along with a divorce. Next, it helps the parents who are divorcing to focus their energy on positive relationship building activities instead of on destructive activities.